"all I want is balance in my life"
How many times have you caught yourself saying or hearing this statement. "I want more time to do what I love, I want to balance my work and home life."
But how do you achieve Balance in your life? Its so easy to want this statement, but when it comes time to actioning it the walls come up. Its overwhelming thinking of all of the things you need to shift in order to create balance with work and family, balance with time for yourself and time for friends and loved ones. I can feel my pulse rate rise as I allow that overwhelm feeling take control of my dreams for balance and virtually force my mind to "shut that idea down RIGHT NOW and get on with your work! "
There is a way, that is so simple it may have not even stuck long enough in our mind to make an impact.
Live in the MOMENT
By living in the moment, what ever you are doing, and where ever you may be, you are allowing yourself to be 100% present in that time. By being completely present you are showing up and giving attention where it will be most useful and productive, and also respected. Playing with your children while thinking about work and tasks that need to be done takes you away from the moment with your children. Being at work and unfocused on tasks wastes your time and productivity, which ultimately leads to job dissatisfaction.
By being in the moment you are
So it may not be a matter of cutting back the hours at the office, but more a condition of showing up, wherever you are, and living, breathing and enjoying the moment.
Love and THE exchange of energy
Looking at the power of our feelings when we connect with someone special for those first intense days and weeks, it is fair to say the sparks fly when we are in an exchange of love and emotion. So why is it that so many people are saying they have not yet met the one, or they thought they had met the one only to realise that it was the one they should have not even bothered with. The sparks fizzled as fast as they appeared.
Questions we may ask, but not energetically feel appear: Why havnt I met the one? Is the feeling mutual? Is the energy exchange between the two fair and balanced? And why is it that you read all the signs and heard all the right things only for this love match to fizzle out into nothingness?
Scientists such as Dr. Masaru Emoto, a researcher and alternative healer, have proven the formation of physical reality can change when infused with different intention, energy and emotion. So what is your energetic “voice” saying about your relationships?
Watch and listen to your thoughts, they are infusing intention into your relationships and affecting the outcome of your vibrational match.
Working with the concept that your thoughts create your beliefs and your beliefs form and fuel your action, take a step back into what it is that is creating your thoughts. Your thoughts hold as much energetic currency as your actions. It’s vitally important then to have as much conscious awareness around your thoughts as it is to have awareness around the actions you take day to day. Do you put as much care and thought into crossing a busy road as you would your thoughts and internal chatter about relationships? Do you put as much conscious care into who you share your energetic output with? How much energetic currency exchange you are willing to output and what a fair exchange of energetic output looks like to you?
It is true that your experiences can shape your thoughts. That being said, how have your past relationship experiences impacted your beliefs about relationships? Do you need to recalibrate and reset your relationship experience by creating the kinds of relationship experiences you want to have? It is possible that you can do this by infusing your energetic self with the thoughts and intentions of what your ideal relationship looks like, without even having to play it out in reality.
Spend time feeding your imagination of the ideal balance in a relationship for you. Feed your intentions and thoughts with scenarios of time balance between one on one time and time do the things that are important to you. Fuel your scenarios to create the energetic vibration you want to match in your relationships.
It’s easy to get lost in the momentum of a new relationship. You get so swept up in the feeling and energy of this exciting time that the thinking part of your mind can be hushed up into the corner to make way for the feeling part that likes to enjoy and imagine all the beautiful possibilities of this new relationship (no matter how logical they are…). The brain being the awesome receptor that is directs these feelings and emotions to all the parts that want to survive and reproduce and continue on this beautiful biological event that is humanity. But where do our deeper communication pathways fit within all of this action? Where is the inner voice inside that believes that you are beautiful and deserve to be treated respectfully and equally and fairly? What happened to the voice of your inner energetic self? It’s been squeezed in the corner away from the good vibe feelings that are creating a future for your cells and DNA.
How then can we filter through the list of suitable reproductive partners to find a balanced and equal match that excites our spirit as much as our physical being??? By finding an energetically matched partner. That’s different to a partner that may have similar interests, friends, and experience. It’s about finding that vibrational match that together, you raise your vibrations and energetic impact on this planet to live out the best possible version of your existence. You are so connected and in tune with your balance and flow that you create amazing moments and energy alone or together. And that is the key. You see, its about becoming the vibrational match of who you want to be with, and living in that frequency even if you haven’t met them yet. Be your true authentic self with or without them. By radiating at your true inner authentic frequency, the similar frequency suiters are automatically attracted to you. You are as irresistible to your perfect vibrational match, as they are to you. They want what you are radiating.
By setting your energetic self up with all of the values and beliefs that you allow into your relationship experience, you are creating an energetic boundary that no firework feeling can penetrate. You are aligning yourself with what is acceptable and fair to you, leaving anything less unable to access your energetic response.
The way to aligning yourself isn’t mission impossible. It doesn’t depend on where you live, what you wear, how you look; it just depends on your inner energetic awareness being balanced with your energetic output. This is different to being out on the town looking for that ideal partner; it’s about putting yourself first in that search and looking for the people, places, situations and events that align with what feels balanced and right to you.
It may be that you need an energetic reset. You may need to recalibrate your system to really identify and know what it is you feel and want energetically, but once you know and identify you start to increase your vibration and attract the perfect match. Take the time to reset and get in tough with your energetic vibration and what its really radiating.
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Every now and then it feels like life is just not moving forward. It's like we're going through the motions. Same s$&t different day. Then all of a sudden you reach a point where you look back and suddenly realise you have moved and shifted from where you were. Whether that's in mindset or actual physical movement. It's as if you were on autopilot and barely have any memory of the feelings you had as you moved from one way of being to where you are now. On reflection the ease in which you moved through that period in your life cycle just seemed to effortlessly flow with little anxiety, fear or resistance. Then, there are the times where you can feel and sense the shift before it's even a thought or plan in your mind.
Anxiety? Uncertainty for no apparent reason? Panic? Your thoughts race to reach any logical conclusion they can to why your feeling this way? "Obviously something is wrong" , obviously something bad is going to happen" these thoughts chatter to you as you go about your day with that inner 'some sort of feeling'.
Here's some food for your thoughts....... Your subconscious is connecting to your intuition loud and clear. A shift is on the horizon. A change is brewing, a significant one at that. And you know it. You feel it. It is necessary and it is ok.
And then you doubt it? And question the intuitive knowing your feeling deep down?
That is what's brewing the negativity towards this feeling. "Something is off" your mind concludes. The conscious mind automatically assumes that this off feeling must mean something is wrong. Your mind says it's the most intelligent part of your existence and it hasn't created this feeling, so it can't be good. Because to your conscious mind that's the only logical explanation. Enter anxiety. Enter fear. They will support the minds conclusion. Hey, they will even feed it and help it grow.
The mind is funny like that. It likes to be in control. But if we could only support and nurture it enough to trust in our feelings more, especially the positive and connected ones, we could cruise through our life journey and the necessary life cycles with so much more ease and content and maybe even enjoy it (the good and not so good) a whole lot more.
When you trust your inner connection, knowing, intuition it can be that easy. For its then when you trust that inner knowing and nurture it and tell it "yes I know my dear, I can feel that feeling that's new and different and could possibly overwhelm me if I let it, but this time I might just try and give it some room to sit. I'll let this feeling sit and make itself at home. I'll offer it comfort and warmth. I'll offer it love and room to be. I'll allow it to grow and feel nurtured."
Because, if I feed this feeling with love and warmth and space to be, it will be.
And if I feed this feeling with fear and anxiety and negativity, it will be.
I will feel greatful for this feeling that has come to me at this time. Because staying in the same place with no change having the same experiences makes me feel, well it makes me feel flat. And low. And boring. And negative. And that feeling makes it hard for all of the flow of life to happen.
Because that's what will be. Life will flow. The wheels of the journey will turn. They are guaranteed to turn. And they will. Whether I look at them in a negative or a positive way, they will turn. The flow may be more of an uphill journey if I feed it with negativity, or an easy roll downhill if I release resistance and let it roll. But resistance will not stop the cycles and flows of life. It will just cause stress and tension and negativity to amplify.
So if you are feeling the symptoms of a cycle shifting and rolling in some new energy decide which way you want to roll.
Allow yourself to trust in the flow and cycles of life. Allow yourself to trust your inner knowing and allow the mind to release its resistance. By releasing resistance you will become free. Tell that monkey mind of yours to let go. If it holds on to crap it will get caught in a cycle of hard times, pain, resistance panic and fear. Much like the monkey in the clip below, our mind can hold on to things that get us caught up in situations we really don't want to be in... (It's ok, the money is ok). But if he only knew that all he had to do to be free was to let go.
Tell your monkey mind your going to let go this cycle, and see how amazing the shift can be for your life.
How do you treat your monkey mind? I'd love to hear your ideas on how you already do, or will start setting your monkey mind free.
Xx Sarnia Cherie
25 days ago I realised Mercury was turning Retrograde. So what does this new 'buz word' event even mean? Well I wasn't sure really but I had heard from a few different people that all sorts of crazy can occur when Mercury is Retrograding. From miscommunications (both externally and internally) to technology going haywire. So I decided to be prepared this time. I did a little astrology research and found out who the key players in this retrograde cycle were, and what part they had to play in it all. All astrological evidence pointed to this being a great time to do some major sorting and learning both on an internal level and a physical one as well. Nothing like a good detox to get things into perspective. I was on a mission to detox my mind, body and life. It was time to go within and clean up the clutter so I could find my focus and passion to live my life purpose.
I decided that to work through the barriers everyone told me Mercury would deliver at this time I would need to make a 25 day calendar to record my progress. My '25 ways in 25 days detox calendar'. If this retrograde time was going to deliver some fuzzy unclear, unfocused energy I was going to be ready for it!
How did my 25 day Mind, Body, Life detox go? Honestly I probably completed 10 days before the fuzzy took over and I lost focus. I actually didn't even think about it much after the 10 days at all. As much as I had planned to stay on top of reorganising and reflection I have to honestly say I just let the 'flow' run the show. I was well and truly going with the flow. Thoughts drifted, plans shifted, priorities sifted. Not a lot of anything got done. But I'm not going to beat myself up about it. Because the 10 days that I did focus helped me to reframe and refocus so many areas of my life.
Those 10 days created the most positive shift towards aligning me on my life path than any other day has done in a long while. It gave me a chance to have a focus. An opportunity to reframe my mindset. To let go of all the mindset crap I was holding onto about what's important and must be focused on. Subconsciously the order of focus on my list was prioritised. These were the things that my whole being wanted to work on and shift. Looking at it now, the things that mattered were in the top 10. The things that could be affected by my reframed mindset in one swift shift must have fallen of the wagon with the rest of my detox. But that doesn't matter. If it was loosing me and my focus how important was it to ME? How important was it for me to hold onto that thing, idea or belief? And was it even useful for my self or others for me to be hanging onto it? But what truly sealed the deal was the next 15 days of my detox that fell of the wagon, that got lost in the fuzzy. Those days created the space for flow and emptiness to linger and offer a still perspective. A void to feel my passions and purpose.
Bang. The realisation of energetic responsibility. I was participating in a personal internal cleansing, but in turn, a clearing of my unwanted and unnecessary mindset beliefs was released making me a more energetically responsible being.
You see, if you are not constantly clearing and shifting and growing aligned with your purpose, you are not allowing the intended flow of life to occur. You are doing an injustice to the world we live in. If your not taking energetic responsibility to clear away your blockages that create frustrations within you that you then release upon others, then your adding to the negative energy that is causing stagnation and slowed momentum here on earth.
So even if you can't commit 100% of your focus toward owning your mindset (seriously if you can I want to meet you), it's about creating space. Create time to switch off, allow yourself the time to get off the rat race and take a look around from a quiet, still perspective. This space creates opportunities to reshape your mindset. To rid your mind of negative self talk and fill that space with love and compassion. Love and compassion to fuel your passion and your purpose. If you can just catch yourself out when your allowing your mindset to dampen your passions and reframe that little voice inside to be a little more helpful and productive you will fall upon your purpose. So allow yourself to create the space to follow your passions for the greater good of the planet. Take one for the team! 25 days on I find my self here. Ready to take energetic responsibility for my passion and purpose. Taking one for the team.
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In the 25 ways in 25 days eBook I asked you to think about how you are feeling right now about ?
Connection to self.......
If your feeling great and things feel smooth and balanced that's great. If you feel an area needs some sort of improvement or reconnection I have a little experiment for you to try. I'm going to call it,
The Think Challenge
To invite change into your situation, you need to look deep within at how you believe that situation to be. Let's for example say that you arnt totally happy at the moment with your money feelings, and how money is working for you right now.
What are your beliefs around money. Dig deep..... Are they limiting? Are they negative? Are those beliefs in the now, the past or the future - I will have it one day, I will get a better job one day, I used to have heaps and blew it, I just can't keep up with all the bills. Relate this to your beliefs around relationships, self, what ever area you want to see change........
These beliefs usually show up as sayings about yourself, whether said out loud or in your head, creating more beliefs about the situation.
This is an ongoing system that will require you to be on the ball. You need to catch yourself when those negatives come sneaking in, and replace them with a new thought that's more aligned with what you want.
Use this food for thought to create some tools that will help you focus on the thoughts that feed the beliefs that are more aligned with the goals and outcomes you want to achieve right now.
The Think Challenge will effect change in your life. When your beliefs are aligned with and true to what your subconscious and conscious mind agree to and your inner self knows, absolutely anything is possible. Watch the miracles roll in.
Oh, there's nothing like a Fresh New Start. A clean crisp page, an energised Monday Morning. Today marks a New Moon cycle with the Moon in Taurus. This marks a perfect opportunity to review and commit to your goals. Express the positive side of the Bull this month cycle by enjoying the pleasurable things in life. Get in touch with nature and your body. Look at your relationship with money and possessions and review what makes you happy right now. You can use this month cycle energy to change what it is you don't resonate with, and make room for things that make you happy and energised. Get your plans down on paper and make them happen. By starting now you will be ready for the next moon cycle where every bit of organisation and reviewing makes it all the more successful.
The Page of Cups Tarot appears today to offer some guidance in this Crazy Fuzy Fun Time. (Only 24 more days to get through to the other side of this wonderful fizzy fuzzy Mercury Retrograde action).
You are being guided today to begin a new creative project. I know, everything that could point to reasons why it's not a good time to start a new project is flashing neon signs all around. But if you could just pause for a moment. Pause for this moment and FEEL that pause throughout your body. Feel the breath in your lungs, the beating of your heart. Feel what it is your inner self is asking you to feel. You may then begin to notice that all resistance to starting something new today is simply that. RESISTANCE! And once you let go of it, something amazing happens. Movement and momentum occur. Syncronicities and signs appear. Gentle reminders from the universe tap you on the shoulder and say 'hey, arnt you interested in that....why don't you look into this.....'
Today the Tarot is asking you to make way for your desires. Inspiration is waiting for you to release resistance and begin creating. Be open to possibilities and opportunities. Listen to your dreams and dream images. Unexpected but welcome messages are likely today. Let go of outcomes and expectations and become light and child like. Free to allow whatever the day may bring to flow into your life.
If you are keeping track of your 25 ways in 25 days, I highly recommend you take a strategy from the page of cups Tarot and "allow opportunity to flow"
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Enjoy your day and get out of your way, let life flow.
Excited to dive into some new and divine workshops and classes.
- Tarot Workshops
- Pilates matwork classes
- Equine Pilates Workshop
- Meditation and Mindfulness classes
Stay tuned for dates..... And don't forget to enroll in the upcoming Pendulum workshop being held in Batemans bay on July 31.